Just Ignore Them…The Earth Will Not Explode, I Promise.
You know who I’m talking about. Those people who always want to tell you how your idea can go wrong, or why it won’t work, or why you just can’t do it. I have some news for you: The vast majority of these gloom and doom predictors don’t know what the heck they’re talking about. They are a bunch of Cliff Clavins running around playing balderdash with other people’s hopes and dreams. I’m not really sure what the psychology behind their particular bunch of nonsense is, but I think it may have something to do with the old “misery loves company” adage.
These gloom and doomers, for some reason, want to make you think that you should never do anything…ever…because it might not work out exactly the way you want it to. These people may have had a dream of theirs go wrong and now they live in fear. In reality, it’s not the failure that did them in…it was their reaction to it. Things don’t always go according to plan, in fact they rarely ever do. You have no control over, well, most things that happen in life. You especially have no control over what other people say and do. You do, however, have control over how you react to events in life. It’s not the end of the world if things don’t go right all the time, so don’t behave as if it is.
If you get the band together and the guitar player is a drama queen who makes gigs and rehearsals a nightmare for all involved…does that mean you need to scrap the whole band? No, you just get another guitar player. Better yet, try to get a group of players who get along well in the first place. What you don’t want to do is get a bunch of bratty players together and demand that they stop being bratty. Yeah, that never works, and it will just make you completely miserable.
Ignore the gloom and doomers (I think they’re called Eeyores in some circles, you know, from Winnie the Pooh). Failing sucks. Making mistakes sucks, but it’s not going to kill you or anyone else and hopefully you’ll be able to see where it went wrong and figure a better way to do it next time. You may also realize that a particular endeavor was not really the best thing for you to do and you may come up with something completely different. The possibility of failure or making a mistake is not a good reason to stop trying to do things, whatever they may be. Learn from mistakes and do your best not to repeat them. Keep moving forward and eventually you’ll get there.